Discipleship: Lessons from Alcoholics Anonymous?

I was talking to a friend recently who was celebrating twenty years of sobriety. He found his sobriety in an AA program, which emphasized that in the first ninety days that he needed to attend a group meeting every day and call his sponsor every day too. They also taught him to read from the Big Book each day, and to spend time reading or listening to something inspirational every day as well. They also taught him that during those first ninety days that he had to pull away from his old world, and spend as much time as possible with others who had been sober longer than himself. The purpose of all this was to submerse himself in a new life style, one free from addiction, and give himself a chance to change his thinking. They told him that he needed to sever some of his relational ties that were unhealthy, and that during those first few months that the meetings may not make much sense because of the new lingo, and the new view of the world he would have to catch onto by being present. They told him if he stuck with it that one day, something would click, he would hear his story, and that he would never want to go back. They also told him that if after ninety days if he wanted his old life back he could have it, free of charge. The point was to get free, and to do that he needed to take some radical measures to change his life, and they told him that he would need the support structure of a group to do it. He would be learning a new way of life, free from the destructive effects of addiction. When my friend joined AA he was broken, and he wanted a new life. Eventually, he became convinced that he needed God too, not just a higher power, and that he needed Jesus’ forgiveness. So he went to church.

At church he found a great social circle and later joined a church that had a Bible-based recovery program. In his desire to say clean and sober he started attending their recovery program but saw many of the members struggling to stay clean and sober, because the church program only had one meeting a week. However, one size did not fit all. He also noted that they were not being encouraged to spend time together outside of the church recovery program, that they were not being told to read daily, and that they were not getting any input except at the one meeting. His summation was that the leaders, who were mostly pastors, did not understand how difficult it was to get free from their old way of life, and that were trying to approach a serious problem with some good music, a nice little lesson, and without much commitment. Do you see any parallels between the church recovery program, and the general approach of the church in North America to life change?

Like the church recovery program my friend encountered, most churches are trying to tackle the issues of sin and addiction to self with a one hour a week meeting, with a lesson for everyone, designed to accomplish everything. When was the last time you heard anyone say? “You need to dig in, read from the “Big Book” daily, and listen to something inspirational everyday too.” When did anyone ever say this? “These first ninety days are the toughest. You need to meet daily with a sponsor, and everyday spend time with a more mature saint to learn this new way of life. You may need to go to a meeting everyday for a while, and even though you won’t understand it all, eventually you will get it, it will all click, and you’ll hear your story. You may also have to get rid of some friendships that pull you down, and who do not want you to change.” Nope, in most churches that is labeled legalism. Instead most churches today dumb-down the message and feel the need to explain away any hard stuff. Many churches stress a low commitment mentality. The results of this modern Christianity make for a few well-staged, and carefully scripted testimonies, but for most people, transformation does not come in a miraculous event, or in a once a week meeting. For most people, transformation comes through the diligent and purposeful discipline of daily reading in the Bible, spending time with other disciples of Jesus who are more mature. Even better still is spending time with a sponsor (or discipler) and reading or listening to something inspirational everyday. Changing your life may take two or three meetings a week for a while. Maybe even doing the hard work of changing your mind, heart and actions through intentional practice of the things you have learned in meetings and through a sponsor. This kind of sound advice is not legalism. It is the way the church has made disciples for over 2,000 years. Our technology and our social graces have not improved upon this time proven method. The real, but hidden, legalism in most churches today, is unwritten dress codes, approved TV programs, social drinking, political parties and positions, versions of the Bible, dancing and other subjects that are not in the Bible, but have become the hallmark of faithfulness in American churches while loyalty to Jesus has hit an all time low.

As well, I am intrigued that among those who sponsor others in AA, and other recovery programs, that they do not frown upon hearing the basics over and over again. Instead they go over the basics daily before delving into other stuff, because if they get away form the basics they will loose their way. They may not go to meeting everyday anymore, but they are regulars. They sponsor others because they want people to be able to change their lives. They may be strong enough to go places they could not when they started down the road to sobriety but neither do they wallow in that stink, and tell everybody how they can handle it. They recognize where they came from, how easily they could like a dog return to their vomit, and they intentionally work to keep their mind on what is good, noble, and worthy. I am reminded of the words of the Apostle Paul in Philippians 4.8, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (ESV)

The disciplines of life change that are employed by AA and other recovery programs are the same disciplines the church has used for over 2,000 years. My only caution is that as you enter into a discipleship plan that you recognize it as a plan, its not carved in stone. Discipleship is not a merit-based system for getting brownie-points with God. The goal isn’t to earn anything, but to change our selves, to get free from the corrosive effects of sin, and our addiction to self.

So then, do you have a growth plan? Are you freer today than you were when you started walking with Christ? Have you gotten free from the same old stuff or are you still captive to it? Do you know more about what God is doing in your life? Are you more full of joy in spite of circumstances? If the answer is no, maybe its time to start treating your old life like cancer instead of a cold? Maybe its time to take your addiction to sin and selfishness serious and develop a ninety day plan to sober-up, and change your life.